What I am going to discuss, explain, and break down today is why it’s so common in our society for other people to try to bring others down. It’s a real shame quite frankly, because so many would rather see people fail, will contribute to ensuring their failure just so it makes themselves look and feel better, and its sickening – but feel better about themselves afterword by hurting other people. Why do you think so many people like to read People Magazine or watch celebrities rise and fall to fame? Because it allows the meaningless life of their own to not look so bad, and to backward rationalize their own behaviors and choices.

This competitive nature was fine when we were all cave people and the one who was on top would eat the most, have the most women and children and life a life of caveman luxury.  Yes, this “alpha” nature still is inside our genetic makeup and insticit, however because humans have evolved from a grunting, wooly mammoth killing caveman into sophisticated, thought provoking, intelligent, achieving creatures things are different.

Its interesting how many people like to talk behind other peoples backs trying to bring them down to make themselves feel better.  Just think for a second, especially if you are a woman – how much of your time whether it be alone or with other people is spent talking or thinking badly about others?  I would venture to state that for the average person its a lot of the time. Most people today are miserable and don’t even know it.  Deep down inside they are sad, lonely, unfulfilled, alone, depressed, and miserable. So instead of confronting or addressing those very scary issues within themselves they project outwardly by attempting to try make others feel worse about themselves so they don’t have to feel their own hurt alone.  It’s quite fascinating to watch and observe if you are able to recognize this and are coming from a place of true intrinsic confidence, happiness, and abundance.

However, its an absolute travesty that people today who could be using their talents and abilities for good CHOOSE to be shallow, condescending, conceded, and have hate and anger on their hearts when it’s just as easy to be happy, have abundance, joyous, peaceful, helpful, loving thoughts and actions.  Its really a war out there and it’s the Good vs. Bad battle field that has been going on since the creation of man.  These people supplicate to mediocrity by overeating, lacking exercise, settling with their mate or life partner who is less than what they want, they settle with their job, and their entire life overall most of the times never ever really knowing. Humans are CAPABLE OF ANYTHING they put their mind to, although most will take the easy route by not applying themselves fully and try to bring others down to their level of misery. Negativity, misery, and criticizing others is just the tip of the iceberg for these takers in life.

Sure, these people may have a decent or even in society’s mind “a great job”, they may look happy externally from the outside with their spouse, or partner, they may say things are great and think life is good because they can pay their bills, have some friends, and may even think they will or are making a difference and will live a legacy behind to be remembered.  But the thing is…. these people deep down, under all of the layers of conditioning, suppression and their own nievetivity are sad, lonely, little people. So instead of looking inside, they focus on the outside and others. They hurt people to feel better themselves, they attack others because of their own insecurities and jealously (which most of the time they don’t even know why they are doing it, and cant recognize or place exactly what feeling it is they are feeling threatened by); as they attempt to bring you down.  The ONLY THING that wakes these people up is some sort of major trauma – nearing their own death or near death experience, loss of everything, major life changing experience, etc or the CHOICE to make something out of their lives.

But…. this is very important…. THERE IS HOPE!

There are a few select individuals, a very small percentage of people in the world who are not this way. They CHOOSE TO LIFE lives of meaning and fulfillment, they inspire others and lift others up, they are leaders, they are the people who really run the world, they are achieves, they don’t settle for 2nd best, they believe in themselves and others, they strive for excellence, and at some point in their life made the CHOICE to be GOOD not bad and ANYONE has the ability to CHOOSE to live thier life this way!

What is leadership?? What does it mean to be honest?? What does it mean to be yourself?? These are important questions that a person needs to ask themselves in life.

True leadership comes down to strength, integrity, brutal honesty, and serving others not serving yourself. Sometimes that honesty or conviction is not what others want to hear and can scare or hurt them. However, someone who is true to themselves and honest with others and have other peoples best intention in mind are true signs of the highest and best type of leadership there is. Humans have been conditioned by society, the media, and their ego to think otherwise. However I predict there is going to a big shift in people which has already begun to happen.

There are three types of leaders. The lowest on the scale are people who are truly gifted people and are highly intelligent who CHOOSE to use their talents for evil and manipulate others for the pure benefit of themselves. Good examples of this would be Adolf Hitler, or locally here in Minnesota Tom Petters. It’s unfortunate that these people decide to use their gifts this way, but unfortunately it happens every day.

Next you have leaders who are great speakers who can convey messages to people that resonates with them on a deep emotional level. Yet, deep down, these leaders are just in it for themselves and will say anything to anyone if it means the personal betterment of themselves. A great example of this type of leader and since we will be swearing into office this type of person is a few weeks is Barrack Obama. Here is a guy who has an ability to speak eloquently to the masses and people believe in purely the words that come out of his mouth, not the action that has, should, or could come from it. I call this type of leader the “lamp leader”. These leaders “glow green” if you will and are very charismatic but there is still something missing.

Lastly, there is servant leadership. Servant leaders are the types of leaders that people follow into battle knowing they are going to die. Servant leadership is the hardest, rarest, and the strongest because it is the most authentic and it involves putting other people first before yourself. They always have others best interest in mind while also being incredibly forward thinking in their thoughts. These leaders are not always going to be liked by people because there is no sugar coating when it comes to telling it like it is. They are honest, even though at times it can be very hard and not at all what people want to hear. But, they stand tall and stick to their convictions and do not waver one inch, yet being able to fully admit when they are wrong. During our entire history there have only been a very select group on individuals that fall under this category and some examples would be Jesus, Mother Theresa, and Abraham Lincoln.

Remember to put others before yourself, be honest, and most of all be of integrity.